Singles are a growing population at our church. It can be a tough place to be at culturally, between the college crowd and those young marrieds with children. I have a growing sense of their needs, and an increased desire to pray for their spiritual growth and relationships.
This morning, I see that a friend from seminary days, Alex Chediak, has written a piece on singleness. His conclusion:
Holding Truths In Tension
So how do we pass between Scylla and Charybdis in addressing singles on the topic of marriage? We must simultaneously hold several truths in tension: An essential aspect of loving singles is being open to helping them in the process toward marriage, while recognizing:
- our relationship with Christ is more important than our marital state
- some singles are uniquely gifted to remain single for greater kingdom effectiveness
- many singles struggle profoundly with loneliness, lust, fornication, and the like, and welcome (or should welcome) loving, gracious, and balanced input on the process toward marriage from Christians who care about their souls and their bodies
- for most, marriage will be a means of profound sanctification, and they ought to responsibly (and diligently) move in this direction even as they embrace other adult responsibilities
- just as God ordains the ends, He ordains the means. The means may include overcoming your fear and telling a girl how you feel. They may include giving a guy a chance, even though you grew up seeing your parents go through a divorce, and you’ve closed your heart like a shell.
In community with God’s people, singles can discern their calling and (where appropriate) pursue marriage honorably. May God bless and help us all — single or married — as we strive to live for His glory.
Read the whole thing. And pass it along to a single person in your life.
(HT: Justin Taylor)